Setting the Record Straight

No More Christian Nice Guy

The following is quoted directly from the above book. I have been reading it and truly enjoying what Paul Coughlin has to say. The passage below is from page 120.


Ready for the facts about how important fathers really are? The largest, most critical factor predicting whether a child will graduate from high, attend college, avoid crime, reject drugs, or not become pregnant before eighteen is a father’s presence in his or her life. According to a recent report by the Department of Health and Human Services (DHHS), “Fathers play a unique role in fostering the well-being of their children, not only through providership, protection, and guidance, but also through the way that they nurture the next generation.”
However, there’s a huge catch: “A father’s involvement with his children … is powerfully contingent on the mother’s attitude” toward him. Research on children consistently indicates that the father-child relationship, even more than the mother-child relationship, depends on the quality of the parents’ relationship. See the snag? If for decades women have been told that they need a man “like fish need bicycles,” then they have been encouraged to deny children an influence more integral and beneficial than good nutrition. This lowest-common-denominator view of masculinity has wrought unprecedented societal damage; radical feminism inarguably darkens a child’s future.

There is much more offered in this subsection. It goes on and talks about the report much more in depth.

I also found this little tidbit out on the net at

I am enjoying the book and will finish it pretty soon. What it has to say contains a great deal of merit and personal challenge.

What do you think about the role of the father in child development?


~ by bchatcher on February 21, 2008.

2 Responses to “Setting the Record Straight”

  1. The role of the father is critical. There have been similar studies that discuss the role of the father in the Christian church culture as well. The basic paraphrase is that if the father willing goes to church roughly 90% of the kids went to church and adopted those values for their own. And if dad didn’t go to church, that 90% dropped to somewhere in the neighborhood of 30%. Not sure if those numbers are accurate, but I can believe it.

    Saying all that though is not saying the role of the mother is any less important or critical. I believe it takes both to raise a child. I do think though that there is something in us that looks to our fathers. I believe this is something that God has put in everyone because he has ordained the father as the head of the home so it is natural for children to look to them.

    There are my two cents.

  2. Yeah, looking back, if my Dad hadn’t been involved in church to the degree that he was, if it had just been my Mom taking me on Sundays, I can’t see me doing the six-year dip into YM, or the longer time I spent doing church music. I think it does take both, as I recall so vividly sitting next to my Mom in the pew, seeing my Dad proclaim the Word. It was such a feeling of pride in my father, and it would not have been family pride if the whole family (specifically Mom) hadn’t been there to affirm him in the importance of what he was doing.

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